I am Disgusted

I am disgusted, enraged, revolted and otherwise just outright ashamed at the recent events in the kink blogging community. I will not be naming names or calling people out, I am seething, waiting for the childish hateful attacks to stop. If someone’s feeling or ego are so fragile they shatter like glass over a post that they took in a way so few have, then maybe they might want to look closer at their own self and do some soul searching. I am all for supporting friends and acquaintances but not at the cost of being divisive in our community that is already under heavy scrutiny and disdain from much of society.

These recent activities I have witnessed seem more like a pack of coyotes trying to take down prey rather than an honest mistake or blatant attack on the person or group that claims to have been wronged. To claim that someone apology was disingenuine or just for show will never allow them to ever be able to make amends. It is a militant mindset that disavow someone’s apology while constantly escalating till only their opinion is being touted loud and clear as if it is the only correct view.

It is disheartening to watch as bloggers that have supported and worked together for years now take sides. Suddenly there are lines in the sand, people that we are not supposed to talk or associate with. What happened to my kink is my kink and I can support others even if it is not my thing? Together we are a powerful force to be reckoned with, divided there will be infighting till only ashes of a once thriving community existed. As kink bloggers will we allow this to happen? I know tensions are high with all that is going on in the world, but people wake up, put aside the petty differences and allow an apology to be accepted. I consider those who will not accept an apology as the aggressor and danger to the community. The person/s trying to cause the fractures are a plague and the covid-19 of the blogging world.

For now, I will continue to blog what I feel like, write what I want to write. Participate where I enjoy participating and share what I feel like sharing. It is ok if you do not agree with me. There is a reason Baskin Robbins had 42 flavors, because we are all individuals and our likes vary. I will encourage everyone to stop and think how they would feel if suddenly they were under the same level of attack. Just be you, accept we are all different. Education is fine and disagreements will happen, but we are part of a big, fun great and often dysfunctional family. It’s time to stop bashing and start building one another up.

6 thoughts on “I am Disgusted”

  1. Whether you are writing fact of fiction your style just cuts through without the need for unnecessary adjectives. Another great post – u are on a roll. Hate is destructive and telling people where or what they can write, or forcing people to choose a side, is as bad as dictating to a person how they should politically vote. But that is my opinion. I know people will disagree – and I will defend their right to do so…

    1. Thank you. It is most distressing when others try to control and/or force their opinion on the cart people they once supported and befriended

  2. Thank you for writing this, I echo much of your sentiment and what you say. It saddens me greatly to have previously supportive people at loggerheads, while previously generous people actively detract from what others do.
    I wish there was a way to find harmony again, but it seems the hurt are too damaged to accept any olive branches.

  3. Interesting that you use phrases such as ” If someone’s feeling or ego are so fragile they shatter like glass…”
    I say that If someone’s feeling or ego are so fragile they shatter like glass over being asked to show basic respect to others including by using pronouns that do not cause them hurtthey might want to look closer attention themself.

    You also say, “What happened to my kink is my kink and I can support others even if it is not my thing?” No-one is asking for anything more complex than support of their right to exist as protected in law in places like the UK. This is not about a kink, this is about respecting people and ensuring there is no active or passive discrimination for an innate characteristic of who they are.
    I will again use your words, “I will encourage everyone to stop and think how they would feel if suddenly they were under the same level of attack.” Imagine how you would feel if your right to exist in society was under the same level of attack and a community that was alleged to be open and accepting of difference turned out to be interesting and hostile because of your gender.

    I am sad that asking for people to use respectful language has been turned into accusations of being hateful.

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